Archive for June, 2009

Jun 24 2009

Kudos to Mark Sanford for his Integrity!

Published by under Sexuality

Bravo Mark Sanford! Your integrity is incredible. 

As a previous resident of South Carolina, I am proud, not of your actions, but of your honesty!

Real men, good men stand up and admit errors. Humans make errors and then, when they are people of faith, they ask for forgiveness. That is exactly what you did in your press conference.

Followers of the Christian faith profess forgiveness is given, a gift from Jesus, I hope that each and every South Carolinian will remember the tenets of their faith and remember that ” there but for the grace of God…go I”.

And thank you for the information that allowed us to realize that this was not a “just” sexual fling. You honored women as human beings in your confession.

Families throughout our nation face this type of crisis every day and  many of us in the family therapy profession appreciate the example of responsibility and honesty you have provided to other men.

In every life there are deceptions. The measure of a person is in their ability to stop the lies, “come clean”, then ask for and accept help.

Thank you for your courage.

I wish you well and will hold hope in my heart for you, your boys and your wife.

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Jun 09 2009

Trauma and the Legal System

Published by under Forensic

Trauma is not commonly associated with the legal system…unless you have personally been through the process of  arrest and incarceration. Or you have had the experience of watching a loved one or family member move through the system.

The pain of  the  family is difficult to express in words. Usually when asked about the experience, family members become quiet, wordless or tearful. Anger is also a common reaction.

These are also symptoms of trauma. Powerless is the feeling that is often shared quietly. Families frequently find it difficult to share with anyone the pain they feel…others may not understand and they may be met with the anger  about the crime their relative committed.

Does this fit for you or someone you know?

These concerns (and others) are the topic of discussion planned for

June 20,2009@8:45am at Mary Magdelene church in the Orlando area.

For more information about this group for families of inmates contact

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